My Ideal Person:
He has a mind and knows how to use it (maybe even a slightly evil one) He can type fast enough to carry on a conversation online.
He is clear on the difference between domination and abuse, even with humilation there is a time and place.
understands that toys need relationship maintenance
understands that subs also have minds (in addition to those other interesting parts) and might very well know how to use them too.
He is willing to do the traveling if it is required to meet.
He either likes dancing or is interested in learning some kinds of dancing.