First of all, I am a sensual Domme. So if you are a Dom and wish to talk, that is fine, but I will not turn and become your sub or slave. Smiles.....
Second, if you are married or involved with someone, please keep going. I don't play with one who will cheat on his partner.
I have been active in the lifestyle for a while now. Since I have opened myself to this way of life, I have met some wonderful people and made some very good friends. I am more at peace with myself and with life in general.
The one thing missing is a partner. I thought I had met one who fit the bill, but he couldn't commit. Nothing wrong with that, it just didn't work out. So I am looking again. I wish to find one who is a man/sub.... key word being man. I am not looking for a sissy/boi. I want a man who knows how to be all man, and still knows how to submit. I don't mind some dressing up once in a while, but not if it is the whole deal. Again, nothing wrong with that, just not for me. Smiles.... Do you think you might fit this bill? Drop me a line, lets talk. Please add your profile if you do......... Smiles......
Something I read on CM, says it all to those who would wish to be with me. These are characteristics that I feel are within me to some extent, but rest assured, I will not tolerate foolishness in others. Thank you to the one who posted it originally. Here they are in brief:
Acceptance:
Acceptance of self, what is within yourself, what your wants needs and desires are...
Communication:
This is the ability to talk and discuss things. It is an integral part of any relationship, but an absolute necessity within a D/s one.
Compassion:
The ability to see and at least attempt to understand the emotional aspects of your submissive's psyche.
Courtesy:
This one is fairly self explanatory but many people have asked me for specifics on courtesy. It is the ability to show proper manners, pleases and thank yous. To address someone with a respectful tone of voice. A dominant should show courtesy to his/her submissive and other submissives around them. Just because you are a dominant does not give you the right to be rude or cruel. This includes courtesy to your peers.
Grace:
Elegance in the manner a dominant presents themselves is an important and desirable personality trait.
Dominance:
This is the most important trait in a dominant. It is the inherent natural ability to lead. To exert control in a respectful, intelligent and humble manner. The strength of character which allows you to exert the control necessary in a power exchange relationship. The ability to care for another person's entire well being.
Honesty:
Honesty is the ability to speak up, be open and truthful about what you say. Don't hide your emotions, fears, limits, fantasies, ideas and thoughts. Don't tell the submissive what you think he/she wants to hear. Honesty is the basis of trust, without it there is no trust. And without the trust, there is no true relationship.
Humility:
This is basically the ability to see yourself as fallible. To see yourself as a person, not just a dominant. To see that sometimes in reality your needs must be set aside for the better of the relationship.
Intelligence:
As it applies to a successful dominant intelligence is the ability to learn the proper way of playing with the toys inherent in the lifestyle before using them on a person. The willingness and ability to research and learn about the lifestyle itself. The ability to make informed decisions about what their needs are and how to attain them and just how far their domination goes. The ability to take the time to learn their partner outside the roles of dominant and submissive, to learn him/her as the person they are, their likes and dislikes. The ability to learn what pleases their submissive and remember those things. The dominant should not only take the time and intelligence to know the physical tools, but also the psychological tools of dominance. Along with some basic psychological aspects of their submissive.
Loyalty:
This is a very important trait in a dominant. It is the ability to uphold your personal honor and remain true to the agreement between you and your submissive should the agreement be one of monogamy or whatever. Fickleness is very unattractive in a dominant and dangerous to the emotional well being of the submissives who serve you.
Patience:
A good dominant has patience. The ability to wait for things. Being pushy is aggravating and not being dominant. This does not mean you have to be lax or soft, but to learn the proper time to push and the proper time not to. It is also the ability to wait for those things which take time to develop and to learn, especially within yourself. To realize that it takes time for a submissive to learn all the intricacies of serving you and have the patience to teach the submissive what you prefer.
Pride:
This is the ability to know your capacities and realize you are not only a good person but a good dominant. The ability to recognize your own strengths.
Respect:
A successful dominant will show respect at all times, until such time as the submissive proves he/she is unworthy of such respect. A disrespectful dominant does not earn the respect of his/her peers or the submissives around them. By giving respect to others, you earn it for yourself.
Responsibility
A good dominant should have a sense of responsibility and be aware that they are the ones who are in control of a scene. They should take this responsibility seriously and act in such a manner that will keep themselves and their submissive as safe as possible. A good dominant should take responsibility for his/her own actions, even so far as admitting a mistake when one is made and not push the blame onto someone else. A good dominant should use this sense of responsibility to learn before acting.
Self Control
A good dominant must be in control of themselves first before they can even hope to control another safely. A good dominant is not one who is prone to fits of out of control behavior, raging fits and other actions which show a lack of self control. A dominant should be able to keep his physical needs in check in order to maintain a scene safely for the submissive. A good dom should also have the self control needed to stick to his/her guns when they are faced with a begging sub for something new that they know is dangerous and that they know they have no experience in.
Self Respect:
A good dominant values themselves, and respects their own limits. A bully does not thrill a submissive. A solid sense of self worth is a necessity for a dominant or they can cause serious damage to the submissive's psyche. This does not mean act like you are the universe's gift to domination.
Service:
This is applicable to dominants but not in the same way as a submissive. A dominant serves their submissive by and through their dominance. By intelligently applying their dominant nature, and meeting the physical and emotional needs of the submissive, the dominant mutually serves the submissive. A successful dominant remembers that without a submissive, there is no such thing as a dominant. And that to receive the submission of a person is a gift. The dominant will therefore cherish that gift, and do their best to uphold it and not abuse it. This is the key to an exchange of power relationship.
I know this was long, and I thank you for your patience. But I felt that anyone who would be willing to put their life in my hands, needed to know what kind of a person I am. Am I all of what is above? Not all, but I am working on it.
Peace be with you.
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My Ideal Person:
My ideal person is single and wanting to find the right partner for him. I am looking for one that has some of the same likes and dislikes in and out of the lifestyle as myself. I am not in a rush, but am looking for a long term relationship, with you taking my lead. I hope you are too.
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