An old Yiddish proverb says, "it is easier to know ten lands than it is to know one man." I've always held this to be true. Unless they are completely artifical--either lying or reduced to the sum of their fetishes--people are complex. Every human being is a book too long and too nuanced to be read in one lifetime. You are a an event that will never happen again in the history of the universe and you are aware of it.
So am I.
Knowing that, how do I describe what I want in another person. The problem, as Ezra Pound might have put it, is one of condensing. It is a matter of breaking down the big thing and making of it smaller, more useful things. In a sense, you could say I am describing you so that you will recognize yourself. You could say I am trying to evoke you. I would like -to call you into being.
1. You are smart: Ideas excite you. Accomplishment impresses you. The moment of understanding widens your eyes and makes your heart beat faster. Everything you know is a great secret that you're dying to tell someone.
2. You are submissive: It informs you and drives you. Maybe it was something you only admitted to yourself last Summer; maybe it was something you first glimpsed in yourself when you were a little girl: you needed someone to hold and keep you. In fantasy, you were a slave, a prisoner. Growing up, you needed a father-figure, a keeper, a jailor whose influence freed you from responsibility, from guilt, from choice, or from the awful burden of freedom.
If you want to confess to someone who will applaud your good deeds and absolve you of your sins, I am definitely your man.
3. You are complex: Please, for the love of God, be complex. If you look at me and can't find anything deeper in yourself than, "he looks like a hot (phone-)fuck," please, *please* keep clicking, keep moving. Nothing to see here. If you have an emotional life that is indistinguishable from a blow-up doll's, you are wasting your time with me--my exploration of another person only begins at a point that would bore you out of your socks. Seriously, if emotionally and/or intellectually, you are a mannequin with a vagina, the world is full of opportunities for you. Go your way in peace.
Much the same is true with regard to swinging and the scene. Pictures of multiple partner scenes always raise a question in my mind that is pretty much summed up by this: "which of the four people engaged with your various orifices is the one who values you most and is most valued by you?"
As far as the scene is concerned, I am an intensely private person: the only reason I could ever want to lead someone around in public would be to bring them to explosive levels of arousal--nothing else is worth the time and energy.
4. You are capable of excitement: I'm a strange person. I live for my partner's excitement: if you think submitting to someone will release something in you that nothing else will, we've got something to talk about. With the right woman, I am my partner's mirror: within limits, I can and will do or say practially anything that my knowledge and instincts tell me will bring my partner the pleasure I need her to have and to bring her closer to me. If it makes you mine, I want it to happen.
5. You are... average: I am not looking for Helen of Troy. I am certainly not looking for a beauty-queen (especially not if it's a phone-only relationship)anonymity hides a great many sins--but I need someone who can provide me with the illusion of a future. Entropy is a bitch (I'm forty-five, I know), but if you're fat and sixty and married and menopausal, something essential will be missing from the second you respond to me and I am very sorry: I will never be able to please myself through you and that's the most important thing in the world to me.
You might find this hard to believe, but actual youth is neither a plus nor a minus. I like talking to interesting people, real human beings, irrespective of age even when I am not sexually involved with them. Like all men, I am attracted to the life and energy in the young but I won't waste time drooling over teenaged girls I could never make happy.
I say, "be average" but, but at the same time, I like the unusual, physically and mentally. I like women in whom a single thing comes to the fore and defines her visually like like a farm girl's body--solid but not fat. One of the most beautiful women I have ever seen, was skinny with almost nothing in the way of breasts, wide hips, bright blue eyes and a restless, incisive mind. Your body is the story of your parent's meeting and producing you after god knows how many generations producing something unique and interesting. A Hustler model's body tells a very common and very dull story.
6. You are into bondage of all kinds--physical and emotional: If you are the person I'm looking for, I will tie you to me as tightly as I can. In the land of perfect things, you would say that I am looking for a symbiosis: I am seeking a relationship, not with Jane Random, but with a real counterpart to myself. Want to really understand what I mean by that? Consider this: any person with all four limbs can be tied; to be bound requires all four limbs and a human soul.
If we are local to one another, and you only want to be tied, I will be more than happy to practice my bondage with you. I am considered an expert in an unusual form of Japanese bondage by some who know their business. I've taught workshops in it and I expect to teach more of them in the future. I can use rope to do everything from simply depriving you of the use of your hands to putting you in submissive postures, to making you wildly uncomfortable.
For the phone, I can call nationally or internationally. I speak fluent German, bad Spanish, atrociously limited Russian and phrases from half-a-dozen other languages: I love the nuances and contrasts in language: U.K. and southern U.S. accents do great things for me and if you have either and we click, I will do wonderful things for *you.*
If you've gotten this far, the rest is up to you.
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My Ideal Person:
A woman with a deep understanding of herself with an unanswered need for submission. I am primarily interested in phone/online relationships at present, but who knows what the future will bring. If you are local to me, we can discuss bondage: I'm always on the look-out for people with whom I can improve my skills.
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