After some less than satisfactory experiences with some that claim to be submissive I would like to give you some idea of what I think it is all about.
MY VIEW OF DOMINANCE:
I am a naturally dominant male is a society where dominance politically incorrect. I have had crowds part as I walked through them, because people perceived me as intimidating when there was no intent to intimidate. I do not compromise what I believe regardless of the consequences. I really do not need to abuse others to feed my ego. I will not be constraint by a stereotype of what is correct behavior for a Dom. I do that which provides pleasure for my submissive and myself. If I reward my submissive it is because it gives us pleasure. If I punish my submissive it is because it give us pleasure. I do respect the gift of submission, it is a gift that is given because of whom you are, not what you say and do. As a Dom and Master you provide strength to lead and the wisdom to teach. I will provide the submissive that which they most desire, the pleasure of submission. You will be led down paths that you fear to travel and tread where you can go only with leadership. Words and action are hollow without substance. Although Natural dominance does not make me a Dom, or Master, any more than an aptitude for math makes one a mathematician. As your Dom, or Master, it is my duty to seek the skills, wisdom and experience to train and lead. So far I have learned that for each thing I learn I find there are two more things I need to learn.
Courtesy and respect are a hallmark of a Dom, or Master. Courtesy and respect is the submissives reward for submission. Punishment is the consequences of failure of submission. I am a naturally dominant male who has a mentor who is teaching me the art of Domination. It is my duty to instruct and lead my submissive in learning the pleasures of submission.
ARE YOU REALLY A SUBMISSIVE?
The person submitting the profile says he/she is dominant. You reply saying you are submissive. You exchange a few emails and the dominant learns that when you say you are submissive, you mean, you like sexual intercourse from the standpoint of being the bottom. The person writing you disappears. You wonder why. The answer is that being bottom does not make you submissive.
Here are some thoughts (Both mine and others) about what defines a sub.
1. Knows the difference between being bottom and being submissive?
2. Knows the difference between pain and humiliation in dom/sub play vs. eroticism and sensual experience during dom/sub play
3. Puts safety first and thereby places emphasis on friendship also.
4. Knows that a dominant, master, does not have to be a spouse, and the dom/sub relationship does not have to be 24/7
5. The sub must be looking for a dom, not a spouse.
6. The submissive does not try to dominate the dom--there's nothing that will turn me off quicker than that. I don't punish that, I exit the relationship.
7. The submissive accepts whatever toys, restraints, whips, paddles, gear, etc. the dom provides. The submissive does not dictate what the dom supplies.
8. If the dom does not have a permanent dungeon set up; the submissive does not come to the dom expecting the dungeon and everything else on a silver platter.
9. The submissive proves willingness with obedience and humility--he/she does not make the Dom a lion master for example if you are submissive, you agree to that when you agree to play with me.
10. The submissive must have a clear understanding of what is expected of him/her before playtime commences, and if he/she violates that in any way, the Dom should terminate the relationship. The submissive is responsible to be submissive, not to dictate the experience. The submissive must convey clear understanding that he/she knows his/her boundaries and takes responsibility for them. The submissive is responsible to clarify his/her goals and limits--the Dom can then speak to his/her ability to enable those goals.
11. For me, the fundamental duty of a Dom is to punish --either r/t or play but the submissive I look for must seek out a Dom that knows the art of punishment. If you need or want to go to the fine art of flagellation, its acceptable. This does not require bondage but does not exclude it. You see, I know if you are truly submissive, you will place a lot of trust and dependence on and in me. I have to evaluate if I can provide the level of supply your dependence will require. That's one of the reasons I put friendship and safety first. But anyone who does not put an emphasis on safety should not be trusted.
If you agree to these definitions continue on.
We are a couple 40 something, involved in a long-term relationship.
I am a dominant male describe by many as a person who is always in control. I am fair and open minded, willing to respect limits, but expect you to respond without question to my command.
She is my first mate, she may seem timid, but she is not. Her desires are someone who is spontaneous and open minded, as do I. She wants obeyed and to be seduced, and most importantly served by someone who eager and willing.
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My Ideal Person:
If you have read our profile and gotten to this point, then by all means continue.
Regarding what would be an ideal person from my perspective:
The first thing would be someone whom has read all that is written within our profile before getting to this point.
Now ideally I seek the following: A submissive female that has the goal of being a slave to her Master and Mistress. She should have read the story of O, and a real plus would be slave girl of Gor. One who knows in their soul and heart what they need is to surrender their will to another. This would also be a person whom desires to be owned by another, and totally at their mercy. A slave who knows that her Masters wishes takes precedence over those of her Mistress, and can deal with that. Second to that would be a male slave who shall do all within their power to serve his Master and Mistress, keeping in mind they must also bend to Masters will. This would also be a person who realizes that from the start I will determine both the pace and method that the relationship will advance. You must also be willing to accept the fact that once you have committed only I have the option of ending it, such is the role of a slave.
Now if you are only a submissive we would be work with that also, with the right person.
Now if this has stirred something within you contact us.
A woman or couple or a male that feels the need and desire to be directed and controlled willing to submit,
Willing to please....
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