Vanilla Stuff: I'm a Washington base Dom and all around good guy - responsible, intelligent, educated, cultured, creative, giving, safe and sane. I graduated from an Ivy League school, ran a tech company for several years and enjoy cooking, playing guitar, photography and driving my Mercedes. I live near the Zoo. I'm taking some time now to slow down a little and hopefully find the right submissive or slave life partner. (Oh, as I have been asked before, know that all of my photos are very, very real.)
D/s Stuff: Where bondage or other forms of fetish sex play is a Doing, D/s is a true and pervasive way of Being. It is qualitatively different; D/s is not play and does not turn on and off. D/s is based on deep needs for a special and precious asymmetrical trust and power relationship.
Needless to say, like many Doms, I'm also into BD and SM along with nice shiny toys, gags, latex, slut-wear, humiliation and orgasmic bliss. All these are definitely part of the puzzle as well.
Fetish/kink experience is not required. I like to teach and train. Burning curiosity, irresistible need, some degree of masochism and unquenchable desire should do fine in lieu of experience.
But, make no mistake. I seek sub(s) who:
1) truly need to serve and please to be happy, whether that is serving me or some other Dom;
2) are voluntarily available for - more, in desperate need of - use, discipline, punishment, training and omnipresent guidance.
While meet and a greets are certainly in order, my first milestone goal is for us to experience a quiet, romantic and intense D/s weekend alone together - exploring our complementary needs and truly revealing ourselves, our desires, our hopes and our inner potential to one another. If we "click," D/s for us will be about life, not merely about sex encounters or "scenes."
While there may not be love at first sight, I do generally seek subs who need and determinedly seek a 24/7, TPE LTR - a true D/s lifelong adventure.
Philosophy of Dom/sub. Ater many years, I've come to understand the heart of the D/s BDSM relationship in a specific way.
For me The real key to a satisfying dom/sub relationship is LOVE. The dom proves his love by showering his sub with the caring attention, goal setting, new experiences, careful direction, training, firm discipline and intense pleasure that his sub needs. The sub proves her love by willingly, in fact gratefully, accepting this direction, domination, humiliation, discipline and pleasure that she so desperately needs - of course, within the sub's evolving limits. Submission and trust is her gift of love.
There is no more secure and trusting a love bond than that between a dominant and his submissive. Each proves daily they are completely devoted to the physical, emotional and mental satisfaction of the other.
We can discuss life philosophy further if there is interest at this point.
A rich, gratifying sex life is one of the top 3 determinants of a person's happiness. The D/s style relationship happily sexualizes ever more aspects of daily life and thus grows the opportunities for gratification.
Let's be happy together. Together we can transform lives we desire to lead, into the real, everyday lives we will lead.
Enough. Contact me and ask me anything you want to know. I'm a straight shooter. Nothing substitutes for chemistry, so I guess we'll have to meet for a drink, coffee or dinner and see how it goes.
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My Ideal Person:
Notice all the things I am not specifying. Note that well. I find there are no reliable indicators of compatibility all by themselves. Chemistry is chemistry.
I do demand you to be sincere. I'm not interested in meeting online chat-aholics that don't seek a real relationship. You should desperately need and seek instruction, direction, discipline and deserved punishment to advance your development, not just as a worthy slave, but as a total, fully realized naturally submissive person.
You should be disease free. I am disease free, and would like to stay that way.
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