Gonna revise this quickly. I am a switch with strong Dominant tendencies. In fact I would say I am a Domme and leave it at that except that I am also one hell of a masochist, which means I love to bottom to the right top. I'm a hell of a sadist too, so...shrugs. I guess I am multi-faceted.
I am a very real person, very honest, direct, and I take the basics, like honesty and trust, VERY seriously. My philosophy is, if you feel the need to lie, we are at cross purposes and in serious trouble. No time for it. I will walk away from a relationship over lies. Honesty is rule number ONE. My subwoofer once said to me, early on in our relationship, "I promise to be honest with you always, even if it hurts." That's a damn good start.
I am kind in ownership, and a very good listener. I also expect absolute obedience, and can be strict when it is called for. I enjoy the teaching process, and molding a slave to be happy in service. My slave confirmed that happiness many times. He told me I helped him learn to love himself, to accept his body and to strive to achieve his goals. And he achieved so many. He made me so proud.
I am currently deep in mourning for my wonderful slave subwoofer, who also became my husband, my best friend, my lover, my confidant, and pretty much the air I breathed. I lost him to esophageal cancer on May 15, 2011, at 1:45 am, and he pretty much took the whole world with him. Sometimes I think about taking on another slave, but I am leaving it alone. If I am healed enough, and the right person comes along, we will see. I know my angel wanted me to find someone else, and have a happy life, but right now I can see only his face. We will see what the future holds.
Would I ever consider another Dominant? You know, it's possible, but it would have to be the right time, the right situation, and someone with whose philosophy I absolutely agreed with before I would try that again. I don't do the "get me a drink and then be invisible" thing. Both parties need to be respected and appreciated. That's my philosophy. That doesn't mean the slave doesn't get the damn drink and shut up at times, but the slave should always know that he or she is important, valued, and cherished. I have found that, in that environment, a slave learns trust and learns to feel valued. Once that happens, true growth begins. Without it...what's the point?
This above all...to thine own self be true...and it must follow as the night the day, thou canst not then be false to any man. --Hamlet--William Shakespeare
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My Ideal Person:
My ideal person is honest. He (or possibly she) is who and what he is, and does not compromise that, even in service. He is giving and gentle. Someone who will go out of his way to rescue an injured bird in the road just because it's the right thing to do. Someone who is submissive, service oriented, and capable with his hands. Someone with a beautiful smile, and an even more beautiful heart, who thinks first and foremost in his life how he can make other people happy. And he has a childlike twinkle in his eyes, that hints at a playful character and mischievous demeanor. A truly nice guy, inside and out.
Yes, I am describing someone specific. Subwoofer was all of that and more. I don't know if there ever could be another one out there like him. But I guess we'll see about that too
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