Dudes! If you're married or too far away to have a r/t relationship, please don't contact me in any way. i stated that more diplomatically below, but apparently some of you don't read. Of course that includes "prefer not to say"...come on, we're not stupid here!
i am a natural submissive...up to a point. i know i am not submissive to everyone, but to One i respect, the sky is the limit. Thus, please have your own life in order prior to contacting me. i cannot respect Someone who is not in control of His own life, so how could i submit to One such as that? i have a mind and i use it. Do not expect a doormat that accepts everything you say as gospel at first. Yes, eventually, as trust is built, i will learn that you are right...but that comes with time and experience. i will not suffer fools or abusers with even a modicum of grace, so please dont expect it.
i enjoy some types of pain and at certain levels. i believe in RACK much more than SSC because the terms "safe" and "sane" are relative. However, i am more than a quick fuck or suck or someone to beat black and blue so you can get your jollies. i have much to offer in a BDSM relationship, but that is premised on the idea that it takes TIME and EFFORT to build respect, comfort, and trust...for both of us.
i am not a kitten or bunny or any other online persona. i am a human woman with the wants and needs that go hand in hand with that. i am straight, not poly, and i have a strong personality and a keen intelligence. i am fat, funny, and love to laugh. Making others laugh or smile is ever better, though. If you have read this far, please re-read the third sentence i am NOT poly. That means monogamous: no outside relationships, no third person, just you and me.
i have more experience with SM than with D/s please dont mix them up. If you are confused about the difference, then please ask. i want to learn to be a good submissive i already know that i have limits as a bottom. i DO know that i have certain needs in both of those areas, and if those needs aren't being met, then what is the purpose? The fact that i am submissive does not abrogate those needs.
And yes...what the personality profile says is completely true. My thought processes often irritate those who are either unwilling or unable to keep up. If asking why is a sin, then i have a place in Hell at the right hand of Satan. If you do not like questions, then please move on.
If you have read this far, then i would like to repeat i am fat...not chubby, not plump, not voluptuous, but fat. i have been this way most of my adult life, so i do not see it changing any time soon. Nor do i care i am comfortable in my own skin, but i know there are many out there who are turned off by it. Don't meet me with the expectation that i really weight 110 and just think i am fat. You will be disappointed.
i will not call you Sir in real life or online without a good reason in other words, you must have shown me that you somehow deserve it. i make no apologies for who i am, what i think, or who my friends are...however i do apologize in advance for mistakes i might make due to ignorance. If you have questions, please ask.
Thank you very much for reading this, and may the peace of a gentle evening snowfall in the mountains be yours now and always.
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My Ideal Person:
i want a Dom. In other words, i am not bi or gay and DONT want a Domme, and i DONT want a player, fake, fool, liar, or someone who's out to prove something.
i want a living, breathing real life Dom. In other words, i DONT cyber or phone. Those are great ways to get to know one another, but definitely not the pinnacle of a relationship.
i want a Dom who is strong intellectually, emotionally, psychologically, and spiritually, someone who can guide and nurture a saucy, bright and assertive sub. In other words, i DONT want someone whom i will be able to walk all over without even trying, and i DONT want someone who does not have his own life in order.
i want a Dom who will work with me to build a monogamous relationship. In other words, i DONT consider married, attached, or distant Doms, and i DONT consider couples. i am not poly. i DONT want a third party entering the picture AFTER we have agreed on monogamy.
i want a Dom who is honest. In other words, be who you say you are. Your actions must follow your words. i DONT want to hear that you will help me grow as a submissive and a human, only to have you constantly humiliate me verbally and emotionally.
i want a Dom who, when i touch him, lets me find my rock -- my focus -- and infinity all at the same time, a Dom who does more than pay lip service to open and honest communication. Please know the difference between discussion and argument. In other words, i WONT be merely a convenience, a doormat.
i want a Dom with wit, intelligence, a great sense of humor, and patience to temper his firm hand with gentleness and understanding while he trains a relatively inexperienced submissive to his ways. In other words, i DONT want someone who wont care for my feelings and needs as i care for yours.
And i want a Dom who considers dogs -- NOT in a BDSM sense -- as little hairy four-legged members of the family, One who doesn't mind that they sleep on the bed, sometimes even under the covers.
As for other wants....they are always open to revision depending upon the best way to please my Dom....
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