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I do not believe that submission is something that we choose, I believe more it is something that we are. I believe that it is a desire embedded into ones soul that is natural and true. A genuine belief that bringing pleasure to her Master brings our own pleasures not only in sex, but spirit, mind and soul.It is a calling in ones heart that flames the spirit to constantly grow and become more than we feel....to learn and grow and serve.....To give of ones self in all aspects...to relinquish our will to the control of Another To allow the guidance and control to One that has the true respect and wanting to have us become strong, beautiful and proud within.......It is not a escape from life. It is a life....To crave to obey and empower Another. I can not say giving of respect is submissive as I believe respect should always be given whether lifestyle or not....it is a premise of life not style....I also have no desire to say kink and bedroom because i am submissive there yes but that is not the only moments i feel the calling to submit and give of myself. I have heard spoken of me i am submissive soul with slaves heart....
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My Ideal Person:
Be Yourself
If you have to lie about yourself in order to get someone to submit to you. They did not submit to you.
If you project a personality other than whom you really are, no one actually submits to you. They submit to whom you pretend to be. I understand that you may be tempted to behave as you perceive a dominant should, but in the end you are cheating yourself. You will be far more fulfilled to know that one submits to you as you are. It is YOU who inspires this submission, not an alter ego.
Maintaining a facade is work and sooner or later you will not have the strength nor the desire to continue with it. What then? Do not be surprised when the submissive is disappointed and goes in search of someone who is naturally what you pretended to be. Everyone loses in the end.
Be Honest With Yourself about Your Version of Domination
There is nothing wrong with sensual only domination but for some reason it has gotten a bad and dominants seem ashamed to admit that the only area they truly wish to dominate is in the sensual sense. You wish to make a good match when choosing a submissive so be proud of who you are and what you want. Do not lie to yourself and in turn to the submissives stating that you wish total control and domination of the submissive if this is not you.
Do Not Begin What You Cannot Finish.
Do not create a highly disciplined atmosphere in the beginning if this is not something you can maintain.
Another problem is strictly disciplined behavior in the beginning only to have the dominant relax more and more over time. Submissives WILL test boundaries and if you slowly allow them to get away with more as time goes by you stand a good chance of losing the submissive's respect for your domination.
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