"When choosing between two evils, I always like to take the one I've never tried before."
- Mae West
About Me
Sane, successful, creative, sexually dominant Male seeks submissive women / couples for exploration and possible play.
I am currently in a loving and healthy marriage to the love of my life, Linda, we have an open relationship. Because there are so many liars out there, you are encouraged to contact Linda if you have any doubts.
I am building social networks and friendships here, leaning toward but not limited to sexual & D/s relationships. If you seek "the one" or wish to be "made complete", we are probably not a good match. If you are exploring like me, with no set-in-stone agenda, then we might talk.
I communicate well, say what I mean and am honest, and prefer others who possess these same values. I take my friendships seriously. I view this site as a sort of coffee shop of perverts (self included). 
In the past my friends and I held what are called "tactile parties". The main event takes place in a large, completely dark room. The room is filled with soft pillows, a cool breeze, various toys and restraints, and inquisitive people. There is soft chatter as people socialize and explore, but away in the corners and hidden places, other things take place in the total darkness. "She was stripped naked, gagged and restrained. Gradually, one by one, she was discovered, and quietly they..." You get the picture.
I'm involved in various activities outside of the scene including Burning Man. I've posted a few Burning Man pictures here as well.
If I sound interesting to you, please don't hesitate to drop Me a note.
Thank you for taking a look at my profile;
-Ivan
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My Ideal Person:
Always looking to meet interesting people, of course. But in context, if you are a woman who knows the best sexual experiences start with an intense erotic imagination, please drop me a note.
D/s, Bondage, and Sex
I love women who respond well to an aggressive man. When that chemistry is right, the exchange can be very intense.
Pain is not a big part of my play. I enjoy the more psychological aspects of D/s, as well as straight up Bondage.
A little philosophy
The development of any relationship is an unpredictable process. My tendency is toward sexual dominance, but the form that it takes depends entirely on the person I'm with. It can be very intense in some cases. It may never develop in others. D/s is No Different from any other intimate relationship. I'll meet someone and the feelings never develop. I'll meet someone else and... This is always accompanied by a reciprocal response on her part. It can't be forced. Only insecure "McDoms" (my wife's term) bark orders in their very first e mails.
The scenes I write about are merely suggestions. I'm open to whatever makes us both tick.
True exploration has no real agenda. The journey is the reward.
An interesting irony I've found in sexual D/s is that when the sub is made to do something she "does not want to do", she not only wants it even more, but in a very real way, she controls the scene. It doesn't sound very "Dom" to say that, eh. It's all a feedback loop.
Incompatibility
While I do care for people, I am not looking to be a therapist. I do not wish to "make someone complete", you will have to do that yourself. If the phrase "the one" appears in your profile, we are probably not a match for anything beyond friendship.
The SubGenius
The personality test for Scientology and SubGerius is similar,but for the answer(s). It goes something like...
Do you ever feel like throwing a brick thru your TV set?
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