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First and foremost: I am married. Before I do anything more than chat, I will let my wife know exactly what is going on. If she disapproves, then nothing will go on. I'm not looking for "some" on the side; nor looking for a "discreet" hookup.
[COLOR seagreen]Pro-Dommes or non-pro but need a monetary proof of dedication, can quit reading. Unless you own AliExpress, TEMU or Amazon: the chance to take my money is zero. My wife gets first dibs on my money.
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Otherwise: If we need to go shopping for toys, food or drinks for an event, etc. Let me drive please, my motorized mobility chair is needed for most of my shopping trips, longer than 100 steps. I have a reasonable supply of money.
Ideally, my wife will regain her "mojo" (her word), and be interested in joining in the fun. She hasn't logged in, in years, but you can see her (very old) Alt profile named: mistressbbwbecky
I've exhausted ideas for self-play in the realm of CBT (Cock & Ball Torture) & BB (Ball Busting). Yes, this is [COLOR crimson]PAINFUL[/COLOR]. It can be made less painful and more erotic, by playing with the cock or balls - but what fun would that be?
I tend to stay on the: "yes it is bruised and raw, but in a week or two, it will heal and return to normal" side of torture. Running a knife down the underside, and opening the urethra, isn't my cup of tea. Torture that stays on the: No intentional permanent changes / modifications. All the parts I arrive with, I should be leaving with - still attached in the normal spot.
That allows a lot of activity, but puts a limit. For instance, inserting a sterile medical needle into or through a testicle(s), shouldn't cause a permanent change. Inserting a bent sterile medical needle into a testicle and twirling it around in circles, will cause a scrambling of the testicle's innards, thus that would be a Hard Limit.
I am mostly an introvert. I'm not one to jump into a chat room and take it over. If asked a direct question, I'll probably provide more detail in my answer than you were expecting. If you get me talking, you are warned: I don't have a stop sign between my brain and my mouth (fingers).
You know that little voice, that tells us not to say that 'thing' we are thinking? yeah? I don't have one.
At 275 pounds my fitness activity, well the 10-pound potato bag exercise was tailor made for me. Ask me about it. I used to downhill ski (blue/black slopes). I used to run (jog): my longest "fun run" was 19 miles; I was training for a marathon when this event came around, and well, why not. I never did the marathon. Mini triathlons were fun too, both times (100 meter swim, 26.2 mile bike, 13.1 mile run). But older age set in & medical problems came knocking.
My working years came to a halt when my lower back said: no, you can not stand upright any longer. So, BDSM activities have to account for a few medically induced limitations. No, I can't stand up and receive a back-thrashing. I can support my upper body on a small bench and not be limited by unintentional pain. No, I can't stand up in a cock & ball pillory, but I can sit with legs spread in a much shorter pillory. Imagination is key.
If you judge whether I am enjoying the pain and discomfort by a stiffening of that body part, please don't be disappointed when it doesn't rise to the occasion, or stay that way ( Diabetes Type II, ED )
An ideal partner would know exactly what she would like to do, to me or with me, and verbally direct.
Most partners, it is a back and forth conversation to get things rolling. When asked: Are you sure you want to try this? My reply will almost always be: It's only kinky the first time. I'll try most anything at least twice, once to see if we like it, and again to verify if we were correct. =D%
In my previous life (when I could stand), I have attended BDSM parties both private and public. Full nudity was something I got used to, and after a bit, began to enjoy it. Exhibitionist? Yes, that is me. I was often put on display inside a cage when I wasn't being used to demonstrate how well my partner could do _____.
I believe in the use of [COLOR limegreen]Safe [/COLOR][COLOR yellow]Words[/COLOR]. What has always worked is the Stop Light. To limit unneeded conversation (that disrupts the atmosphere), To answer your question: Are you alright? Two responses:
[COLOR limegreen]1. Green = what is currently happening to my body, is within my known tolerance level.[/COLOR]
[COLOR yellow]2. Yellow = what is currently happening to my body has gone past the upper limit of my previously known tolerance level - but if you think my tolerance level should be expanded, why stop.[/COLOR]
[COLOR red]3. Red = I know there are only two responses to the Are you alright? question. That is because Red is used at anytime either of us feel that something has gone wrong, that needs to be discussed before proceeding (to continue or to stop). I don't use Red to get a little rest time. If I break a bone, I'm calling RED. If I have a sudden urge to be sick, I'm probably calling RED (no need to vomit all over the equipment), unless, of course, you're busy kicking me in the balls ( BB ), and then getting sick could just be a normal course of action (and hopefully we had foresight and have a small bucket nearby).[/COLOR]
I am a [COLOR gold]Gold [/COLOR]member. Some people create unpaid accounts as often as I change my socks. I am more apt to continue down a path, once I know the person walking with me, is (close) to who their profile says they are.
I attempted to get Confirmed status. It was denied twice for Low Res image. I can't take a higher res image than 4k x 3k. My Colorado Driver's license has a colorful hologram sticker thing; only seeable when the license is in motion tilting. Once the motion ends, so does the effect. So it will never show up in a static image; sending a movie isn't currently what Confirmed status is asking for.
I am not a doormat in real life, nor in the dungeon. I am never inferior, nor superior, to anyone else. I am submissive, but inferior and submissive are not interchangeable words. I'm not into body-part humiliation; I know my stomach is too big, there is no reason to degrade me because of it.
[COLOR coral]If you'd rather humiliate me by having me answer the door in panties and restraints, oh wait, can I be humiliated doing something that I secretly (OK, no secret any longer) am thrilled, that someone is letting me do? (now is a good place to put another Hard Limit. No minors. I don't care why they are present, no adult activities (including nudity, unless we are at a nudist resort) while they are present. So if I were to receive the pizza (for instance), you would have had to know (previous to sending me to the door) that the pizza delivery person wasn't 17 years old. Cross dressing isn't illegal (in most places), so I could be directed to go check the USPS mailbox wearing alternative clothing; I would not go nude.
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Moderation is the key. Doing something slightly out of bounds is one thing. Being arrested while wearing nothing more than a chastity cage, is too far out of bounds.
Hard Limits:
No Scat, no rimming.
No intentional body modifications
No intentional permanent markings
No minors
Alcohol is great, but never before or during adult activities
Contact is limited to Thighs to Neck.
- Nothing below the Thighs (knees, lower legs and feet are off limits)
- Nothing above the shoulders (neck and head are off limits)
Semi-Limit (we need to talk first):
Water Sports
Male to Male contact
Cuttings
SSC if we've just met; RACK as we get to know each other better.
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Min Ideal Person:
Who are you? You're the woman who knows what you want and isn't afraid to verbalize it. We should be able to talk openly about what we want to try. If we aren't comfortable talking about it, then we certainly aren't ready to try it.
You are a biological female (or post-op male-to-female) AND believe that you are a lady (kinky lady perhaps, but still a lady). You are someone that will-never & would-never want intercourse with me. I'm not here looking for sex. If you want something, that I can't provide orally or with one (or more) of my holes, then we are not compatible.
Non-smoker preferred, but light smoker is interesting. The great thing about smokers is they already know how long they can hold a fire to something, without it burning (too much).
At least age 25 (when the brain is said to have fully developed for reasoning powers.
I consider myself straight, with a small twinge of curiosity. I am thoroughly turned off watching two guys kiss (in person, or on television); oral sex with two guys, doesn't have the same effect. If you have a husband or partner that wants to watch (or that you want to be present) that is acceptable. Any participation by that male partner needs discussed first.
If you're married, play is still possible; with your spouses acceptance of the basic topics we'd be exploring. You don't need to give him the details (unless you want to), but he should be aware that we are getting together for personal play. No surprised and upset husbands walking into the room with anyone spread-eagled please.
A public meeting will always be first. If anyone gets a "I have a bad feeling about this", we part ways, no harm no foul. (bonus points if you know the '70s movie that line is from)
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